Let's Talk About Money

from SafeNet

What form of abuse do ninety-nine percent of partner violence victims have in common? Here are some hints: it doesn't leave bruises, it loves creating dependency, and it leaves its victims broke and broken.

Financial abuse happens when one partner demands control of all the couple's money and financial decisions. Not only is the other partner kept financially dependent, even if they bring in a good income, but their long-term credit can be ruined and their bank accounts drained.

In order to keep their partners financially dependent, abusive partners can harass them at work, make them call off, or in other ways deliberately jeopardize their employment. They may hide or lie about their own income or debts.

The effects of financial abuse can be devastating, both emotionally and economically. Victims can feel overwhelmed, inadequate, and depressed due to the emotional stress that accompanies financial abuse. They may be unable to purchase food, clothing, and other necessities. They can't participate in activities they enjoy or socialize with friends because they have no money or must account for every penny they spend.

If you are experiencing financial pressures caused by a controlling partner, don't be afraid to reach out for help because "it's only money." Financial abuse is unlikely to get better over time. In fact, it often leads to additional forms of intimate partner violence.