Bad Mood or Red Flag?
from SafeNet
During these stressful and unpredictable times, it can be difficult to tell whether an episode of yelling or name-calling by your partner is a symptom of frayed nerves or deliberate intimidation. Does a statement like "If you ever do that again, you'll be sorry" sound like someone having a very bad day or a deliberate threat? Is an ultimatum between two undesirable choices evidence of fleeting exasperation or deliberate coercion?
There's a big difference between an isolated argument and a pattern of abusive behavior. Ask yourself this question: Does my partner seem intent on making me feel afraid on a regular basis? If the answer is yes, they could be deliberately pushing to maintain power and control in the relationship. Intimidation, threats, and coercion are forms of intimate partner violence that cause invisible scars, leaving victims traumatized.
If you suspect you are in an abusive relationship and aren't sure what to do, help is available. While confiding in a friend or family member helps, it isn't an option for many people. SafeNet advocates are available around the clock to answer questions, provide support, and offer helpful resources. You don't need to suffer in silence.