I am a regular reader of your column. You often mention not to compare ourselves to others, but it seems that most men I've spoken to can have an orgasm with a blow job. It feels OK when someone goes down on me, I get excited and become erect, but the erection doesn't last. I never feel like I've had an orgasm from a blow job. I often feel "obligated" to please my partner and don't feel worthy of someone showering me with attention. I have had orgasms with partners, it just usually involves penetration. I don't feel that I have to be "versatile" in every sexual act, but I can't help wondering if I'm missing something.